Romance Your Woman

A few years ago, I wrote a post (see here) advocating for doing little things to show we care about our men, rather than expecting romance to fall squarely on their shoulders. Now, it's time to play fair and post a little reminder of the little things men can do to romance their women. Hint: Not everything needs to be a grand and expensive gesture like in the movies. In fact, they don't even have to cost anything at all.

The truth is, while some women may enjoy the larger displays of affection, the smaller ones are far easier to maintain in order to keep the romance alive, and often just as appreciated. Besides, it really shouldn't be too difficult to put a smile on someones face if they're in it for the sake of being with you for the person you are, rather than the contents of your wallet.

So, why do these little things work? Because they remind her that you are thinking about her. She's not a mind reader, and if you aren't among the men who break the male stereotype and communicate their feelings regularly, it's easy for her knowledge of your feelings to fade or become confused. Besides, actions speak louder than words. Now, if you are the kind of person who tells her you care, I am by no means saying give that up. It just means you're ahead of the game, and these are just some extra tools to add to your arsenal.

Good morning/ Goodnight texts:

If you don't live together yet, these are an Amazing way of showing you care and are thinking about her. It tells her that she's one of the first things to cross your mind when you wake up, and one of the last things you think about as you go to sleep. It demonstrates that you care about having her wake up on a positive note, and with a smile on her face, and that you want her going through her day knowing someones cares and is thinking about her.

If you do live together, don't for a second think this can't be just as effective. I have a couple friends that, even after years of being together and living together, he still sends her a text every morning. He wakes up a lot earlier for his job and is out of the door long before she wakes up for the day. Knowing this, he never fails to send her a text saying good morning, complimenting her, and/or telling her how he feels about her. Every morning she wakes up to a message reminding her that she's on his mind, and that he loves her. Honestly, I think this is just one of the sweetest things ever.

Now, he may send her longer messages but really, a message to your woman can be a one or two liner and it will still put a smile on her face. Try your own variations of; “Good morning, I hope you have a good day.” “Good morning, beautiful.” “Just wanted to say good morning, and that I'll be thinking of you.” you can even attach a photo of you smiling or of something that triggered a memory of her, and don't be afraid to get sappy, chances are she'll love them even more if you do. If she's like me, she may even tear up a little and gentlemen, these are the instances where it's okay to make a girl cry *wink*.

Handwritten Notes:

Much like texts, these show her she's on your mind and that you felt like taking the time to show her. However, notes offer a versatility that texts don't. Texts come with alerts, they come to a place that one expects to find messages. However when it comes to a handwritten note, you can hide them in a mailbox, in a lunchbox, in the bathroom mirror next to a toothbrush, you can tape them to a door, or write them on the fridge with a dry erase marker, etc. They're the texts that can show up anywhere as happy little surprises. Personally, I like to hide them between the pages of a book someone is reading. Handwritten notes can include a random compliment, they can include a pun or joke that will make her laugh, they can be a silly doodle, or a thought of her that crossed your mind. Just like texts, they can be short one or two liners, or complete paragraphs. The sky is the limit, so give them a shot. They don't cost you any money, they often don't take too much time, and to her the gesture of these will be priceless.

Tagging Her Online:

In a world run by social media and online communication, I would be remiss if I didn't include a few suggestions for this form of displayed affection. Tagging her in posts online or posting things to her wall for all to see can be a very simple yet effective way of showing her you care. See something that you know would make her laugh? Tag her. Hear a song that makes you think of her? Post it to her wall with a little message along the lines of “This reminded me of the night we met.” “This made me think of you.” “This is how you make me feel.”, etc. Remember, if you're posting something because it triggered a thought or a feeling about her, let her know. Otherwise she may just think it was something you thought was neat and be oblivious that you were trying to be romantic.

Making The First Move:

But the first moves have already been made? I'm not talking about first person to show interest, first kiss, first I Love You's, though those definitely count. No, I'm working under the assumption that you have already been seeing/dating each other for a while. What I mean is, make the first move towards plans or communications. When she is always picking up the phone first, making all of the suggestions to hang out, go on dates, or anything, it can sometimes make things feel emotionally one-sided, or even make her feel like she's annoying and clingy. Try surprising her by making the first move now and again. Pick up the phone and call her at random, suggest a movie for the two of you to watch together, strike up a conversation about whatever is on your mind. This will remind her that you care just as much about her as she does about you, that you want to spend time with her as much as she wants to spend it with you.

Sharing is Caring:

Now, I'm not talking about physical items. Though if you share your snacks it is definitely bonus points gained. No, what I'm talking about in this particular case is conversational sharing. But that's not romantic for her? Wrong. Sharing your day with her, sharing your feelings, your life experiences, your hopes, your dreams, your fears and concerns, even the random thoughts that cross your mind... it shows openness, trust and vulnerability. Sharing these things show that you want to share parts of your life with her that she wasn't there for, that you want to include her. It shows her that you want her to know you, for all of you. Letting her in, truly letting her into who you are as a person and what you have experienced, that is something that brings the two of you closer together. And anytime you take the time to do something that brings the two of you together like that, is romantic.

So there you have it! A few cost free and fairly easy ways to romance your woman! Ladies, do you have any suggestions to add? Men, are there any little things you do for your women that you would like to share? I encourage you to comment below, let us help and inspire one another to keep love and romance well and alive in relationships.

Go forth and demonstrate thy love!

Cheers!

The Bra Street Rambler

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