Romance Your Man
If you've read my other blog posts, you know I try to strive for equality. Not in the sense of feminists poorly portrayed in social media, but in the sense that all genders must put forth an effort to recognize each other and the ways in which we can contribute to a better society.
Now, the jury is still out on whether or not I'm succeeding in this effort, but the intent is there.
Something I've noticed time and time again is the expectation that men are responsible for wooing their partners. It is portrayed this way in the movies we watch and the books we read, and while I certainly have no qualms as a woman with being wooed, I certainly have a problem with women having an expectation of men for favours that they themselves have no intent of returning.
While I recognize that this is certainly not the case for all women, and a great big kudos to those who defy it, to see a woman asking/demanding her partner to purchase things for her at the store, complaining when she doesn't receive flowers, chocolates, or jewelry, bellyaching at the lack of date nights or back rubs..... how often are men gifted with such things? With such treatment?
Being in a relationship means being in a partnership, partnerships require equal efforts.
Just as a woman enjoys the little things that show that their partner cares and is thinking of them, men too enjoy little surprises, and they're not terribly difficult to please in that sense either.
A little note in their lunch, puns and jokes hidden where they will find them throughout the day, their favourite snack food or candy bar with a lipstick kiss stain on it, a selfie sent to them when they are having a stressful day at work, a shoulder rub, or a candle lit dinner that hints at the night to come. Maybe he's been working in the garage for the past few hours, if he enjoys beer, bring one out to him. I can assure you that small gesture will not go unnoticed.
There's really nothing more to it than that.
Men, just like women, want to feel like they have their partners love, support, and appreciation. By destroying this wall that divides men and women in the game of romancing, in showing affection, we invite a much deeper connection and a much healthier and happier norm.
So there you have it Bros and Bras, if you are in a relationship with someone, I challenge you to make more of an effort to be romantic this week. I'm not talking grand gestures, I specifically mean the little things.
Something I've noticed time and time again is the expectation that men are responsible for wooing their partners. It is portrayed this way in the movies we watch and the books we read, and while I certainly have no qualms as a woman with being wooed, I certainly have a problem with women having an expectation of men for favours that they themselves have no intent of returning.
While I recognize that this is certainly not the case for all women, and a great big kudos to those who defy it, to see a woman asking/demanding her partner to purchase things for her at the store, complaining when she doesn't receive flowers, chocolates, or jewelry, bellyaching at the lack of date nights or back rubs..... how often are men gifted with such things? With such treatment?
Being in a relationship means being in a partnership, partnerships require equal efforts.
Just as a woman enjoys the little things that show that their partner cares and is thinking of them, men too enjoy little surprises, and they're not terribly difficult to please in that sense either.
A little note in their lunch, puns and jokes hidden where they will find them throughout the day, their favourite snack food or candy bar with a lipstick kiss stain on it, a selfie sent to them when they are having a stressful day at work, a shoulder rub, or a candle lit dinner that hints at the night to come. Maybe he's been working in the garage for the past few hours, if he enjoys beer, bring one out to him. I can assure you that small gesture will not go unnoticed.
There's really nothing more to it than that.
Men, just like women, want to feel like they have their partners love, support, and appreciation. By destroying this wall that divides men and women in the game of romancing, in showing affection, we invite a much deeper connection and a much healthier and happier norm.
So there you have it Bros and Bras, if you are in a relationship with someone, I challenge you to make more of an effort to be romantic this week. I'm not talking grand gestures, I specifically mean the little things.
Have any stories of things you have done for your partner or that they have done for you? I invite you to inspire others by sharing in the comments below or emailing them in.
Cheers!
The Bra Street Rambler
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