Boomeranging Is So Not Bangarang!
What is boomeranging you might ask?
Think of a person who throws a boomerang. The boomerang goes flying from their hand in some opposite direction, the person puts out their hand and then just like that, the boomerang comes right back to them.
Boomeranging is when someone ghosts you, or otherwise walks out of your life under less than pleasant circumstances, throwing you away so to speak, only to come back later expecting you back in their lives as though nothing has happened.
This is something that can occur between friends, between a person and someone they were dating, or even between two individuals in a long term relationship.
More often than not, it happens with little to no thought on anyone’s part as all is quickly forgiven and forgotten, again and again.
It is something I believe people should be aware of so that they are better able to recognize it when it is happening to them. Not so that they can get angry with the individual doing it to them but rather, so that they can be aware of when it might be time to walk away from a situation where they might not be getting the respect they deserve. No one deserves to be taken for granted.
In the past, I was notorious for allowing people to take advantage of my presence in the lives, for allowing others to take me for granted. There was a time when my mother’s warnings were completely ignored as I responded to her cautions explaining that the people I was friends with were just stressed, that they needed me, that they didn’t mean anything by it. There were times when friends were only present in my life when they needed something from me but would quickly vanish when that need was fulfilled, or when I was the one needing something from them.
There were times when I would reschedule dates with guys, over and over, always forgiving them for bailing or standing me up because they had a reason at the ready for having done so.
There were times when a guy would ghost me only to message me months later hoping to pick things back up again.
Now however, I’ve come to realize that if people wanted me to be in their lives, I would be. It really is that simple. If people want to be a part of your life, if they want to be there for you, they will be. They will find a way to be.
Yes, there are times when a person truly is ignorant to their actions and the impact those actions are having on others, but if a concern has been voiced and not heeded, it’s time to move on. It’s time to have enough respect for yourself to walk away, to demand respect from those around you.
Having someone boomerang you feels terrible, only you can put a stop to it by putting your foot down and expressing that you will not allow others to take you for granted. Only you can decide that you merit respect and that you are strong enough to walk away from something that will ultimately take a toll on you and your self worth if you allow it to continue. We may not be responsible for the actions of others, for the way they choose to treat us, but we are responsible for our own actions and how we choose to respond.
Any relationship, whether it be between friends or partners, deserves equal effort and mutual respect.
So go forth and direct you effort and energy to mutually beneficial relationships rather than ones that are draining and potentially toxic.
Boomeranging is when someone ghosts you, or otherwise walks out of your life under less than pleasant circumstances, throwing you away so to speak, only to come back later expecting you back in their lives as though nothing has happened.
This is something that can occur between friends, between a person and someone they were dating, or even between two individuals in a long term relationship.
More often than not, it happens with little to no thought on anyone’s part as all is quickly forgiven and forgotten, again and again.
It is something I believe people should be aware of so that they are better able to recognize it when it is happening to them. Not so that they can get angry with the individual doing it to them but rather, so that they can be aware of when it might be time to walk away from a situation where they might not be getting the respect they deserve. No one deserves to be taken for granted.
In the past, I was notorious for allowing people to take advantage of my presence in the lives, for allowing others to take me for granted. There was a time when my mother’s warnings were completely ignored as I responded to her cautions explaining that the people I was friends with were just stressed, that they needed me, that they didn’t mean anything by it. There were times when friends were only present in my life when they needed something from me but would quickly vanish when that need was fulfilled, or when I was the one needing something from them.
There were times when I would reschedule dates with guys, over and over, always forgiving them for bailing or standing me up because they had a reason at the ready for having done so.
There were times when a guy would ghost me only to message me months later hoping to pick things back up again.
Now however, I’ve come to realize that if people wanted me to be in their lives, I would be. It really is that simple. If people want to be a part of your life, if they want to be there for you, they will be. They will find a way to be.
Yes, there are times when a person truly is ignorant to their actions and the impact those actions are having on others, but if a concern has been voiced and not heeded, it’s time to move on. It’s time to have enough respect for yourself to walk away, to demand respect from those around you.
Having someone boomerang you feels terrible, only you can put a stop to it by putting your foot down and expressing that you will not allow others to take you for granted. Only you can decide that you merit respect and that you are strong enough to walk away from something that will ultimately take a toll on you and your self worth if you allow it to continue. We may not be responsible for the actions of others, for the way they choose to treat us, but we are responsible for our own actions and how we choose to respond.
Any relationship, whether it be between friends or partners, deserves equal effort and mutual respect.
So go forth and direct you effort and energy to mutually beneficial relationships rather than ones that are draining and potentially toxic.
You’re worth the respect and appreciation.
Cheers!
The Bra Street Rambler
P.S. Bonus points to those who understood the movie reference within the title of today’s post.
P.S. Bonus points to those who understood the movie reference within the title of today’s post.
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